To Love or To Be Loved

I got a lot of thoughts right now. It is said that a woman's mind is like a ball of string. It's complicated. One thing is attached to another. Our job is connected with our feeling about the future, the future is related to the color of our lipstick, the lipstick issue is overlapped with our crush, and so on, the list never ends. Haha.

It's kind of interesting to think about that. It's funny because it's true. Other says that when a woman says she's going to bed, she's gonna clean the table first, turn off all lamps but necessary, brush her teeth, put a body lotion, comb her hair, and finally goes to bed. While when a man says he's going to bed, the next thing he does is.. actually goes to bed! Lol. Yeah, I think I've seen that thing in my family, among friends, and with former lovers.

And oh, this one is also precious:

How about that, eh, guys?

By the way, this thing makes me think that probably it is different between man and woman when it comes to love. Me and my best friend, Veness, always discuss about it. About how women tend to love easily so it is common--so common that almost become a template--that when a man loves a woman, the woman will eventually loves the man even she probably did not the feel the same at the first time.

This reminds me of another saying that "women are better to be loved than to love because as the time goes, women will able to grow feelings for men, and women will eventually give more than men". It may be true given that women's mind is like boxes or browser tabs that open at the same time. Woman can eventually love someone who loves her because probably with a lot of "sources" available, she can "creates" love.

Let's say that to "create" love, one must needs 5 parts. While women can search all parts needed in all boxes (that connected to each other, remember), men cannot do that because the "mind boxes" of theirs are kept separately. They prefer to open the boxes one at a time, at a different time. So, probably, men have difficulty to "find parts that needed to create love" because basically they can't find them. This is different when a man is the first who falls in love. He simply just opens a box called love, and there it is, a complete set of love, no need to be crafted whatsoever.

Is that makes sense? Well, that's how I imagine it. You can give me other views. I would like to share.

However, though it seems logical to me (all of that mind boxes things), but I still can't fully agree with that saying. It's like a limitation for women to actually choose men who we really love. In other words: women can't be the one who fall in love first. Kind of unfair, isn't it, girls?

That's why when AJ, one of my IELTS teacher, asked the class "to love or to be loved", I chose "to love" because when I love something or someone, I will give almost everything. And I feel free to decide what I'm going to give to it. Not to mention the feeling of satisfaction in all efforts I make. These reasons are above the unconditional love which was the reason my friend gave when he (also) chose "to love". Of course, I want to be loved too, there is a hope to be loved eventually after all the efforts I made, anyway. So maybe that what makes me a hopeless romantic--who fall in an unrequited love so often. Ouch :(

But hey, side of me also suggest that perhaps it is true that a woman should be loved, not to love because woman's mind is definitely different from men's. And that must be a reason for it. Maybe we're designed that way because we're supposed to play different roles, between man and woman. Well, I don't know exactly. Food for thoughts, right? ;)

Cheers!